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Take Control of Your Life: 5 Ways to Transcend the Victim Mentality

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Whether or not we knew it then, we’ve all experienced the victim mentality. And it can be an easy mindset to stay in, especially when it feels like everything is going wrong all at once. 

In this article, we discuss the victim mentality and how you can break free from it and retake control of your life

What is the Victim Mentality?

This term is thrown around a lot in pop culture, often with stigma, which is unfortunate because everyone experiences it at some point in their life. 

Simply put, the victim mentality relies on these three beliefs: 

  • Bad things are inevitable and will keep happening to me
  • External sources (other people and circumstances) are to blame for my misfortunes
  • All my efforts to create change in my life will fail, and there’s no point in trying to take control of my life

Staying in this mindset can leave us feeling trapped, distressed, and out of control of our lives because we believe that everything that happens to us is not a direct result of our actions. 

Of course, some circumstances are out of our control, and we want to acknowledge that. For example, a situation out of your control would be a layoff at work when the company is massively downsizing. You may have been an outstanding employee, but if they cut your entire department, that’s understandably not on you. 

However, it’s important not to avoid responsibility when bad things happen because, in most cases, we have some control. We can always take responsibility for our actions and choices. 

If you’re experiencing a victim mentality, you may try to put the blame elsewhere or make excuses, and this can ultimately hurt you more in the long run because you won’t improve your mindset and life. Many people experiencing a victim mentality may also lack self-confidence or feel angry at the world around them due to the perceived lack of control over their circumstances. 

The Power of Life Essences

So, what can we do to address the victim mentality?

One of our favorite ways to address any undesirable emotional or psychological state is through essence work. Essences are vibrational life enhancements made from the life force or a vibrational imprint of a chosen, impactful material. 

On a cellular level, vibrational essences work with the harmonic vibration of fluids in your cells. Once absorbed, the essence’s unique resonance is added to the body’s cellular structure, which supports healing at every level - your mind, body, and spirit. 

For those experiencing any type of emotional distress or interested in working towards goals, like building their self-confidence, essences are a supportive choice that can help you build momentum towards your goal. 

Let’s dive into some of our favorite essences for those who feel out of control. 

Re-Capturing Control

As the name of this essence suggests, Re-Capturing Control is ideal for people going through rough times, feeling discouraged, and struggling to regain control. The life force for this essence is collected from blue tourmaline, jalapeño pepper, goldenseal, and amethyst to help you get back on track. Nobody can rescue you, but yourself, and this essence supports your strength and frees your mind from old thoughts and feelings so that you can move forward. 

It is a perfect choice for someone interested in building momentum, breaking free from the old, and regaining control over their life. 

Confidence Builder

Whether you struggle with victim mentality or doubt your abilities, Confidence Builder is a fantastic essence for anyone interested in eliminating doubt. This essence’s high vibrations support greater emotional security. Regarding your body, this essence may complement the treatment of some viral infections and cancers, boosting their overall effectiveness. 

Confidence builder is made from life force collected from Belladonna flowers, perfect for dispelling negative thoughts and cementing one’s belief in oneself. 

Cause and Effect Awareness

Those trapped in a victim mentality are often unaware of the true causes of their misfortunes. 

Our Cause and Effect Awareness essence promotes greater awareness of your effect on yourself and the world around you. If you seek more insight into what causes you to stick to certain beliefs, habits, or actions, this essence can help you. It ultimately leads you to better adjustment and coping skills for dealing with any challenges that arise in your life. 

This essence is crafted from the life force collected from alfalfa. Physically, this essence stimulates the thymus gland and a vibrational reaction in the hypothalamus, supporting your mind as it brings the past and present together. It may also encourage better blood cleansing. 

Experience Release

Feeling stuck? This essence is ideal for anyone who has experienced challenging times and is now stuck and unable to move forward. Take this essence to release yourself from past experiences so you can focus on the present moment again with new confidence and motivation. 

If you want to bring out your adventurous side, this essence can help you stay in the present moment and take those risks. Experience Release is made from the life force collected from raccoons, lavender, citrine, and aventurine. (No animal parts are included. The essence holds the animal's energy.) 

Personal Positive Self

Like confidence-building, boosting your positive perception of yourself can free you from self-doubt and the victim mentality. Personal Positive Self focuses specifically on your perception of yourself so you feel better about yourself, boosting your self-esteem. It’s also ideal for supporting yourself during meditation to connect to higher knowledge and understanding more deeply.

This essence is made from the life force of orchids and is ideal for balancing the physical body. When your bodily systems are aligned, you won’t cling to toxicity and negativity anymore, allowing you to become more balanced physically and emotionally. 


We hope this article inspires you to regain control of your life. We know how difficult this mentality can be to break out of! 

Well Wishes, 

Natalie & Leilah

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